I felt bold one year ago when I owned up to hating SMART goals. I chucked the whole idea and committed instead to sitting down everyday with my intentions for the year. So how’d it work out? Is it worth trying, or was my 2010 a failed attempt that will send me scurrying back to Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timebound?
2010: Intentions and Results
I honour my body and my health. I moved to a house with a kitchen that makes me want to cook healthy food. I alternated running, walking, and yoga. Best of all, I get enough sleep all the time. I’m learning that the more I embrace my rhythms, rather than fight them, the healthier I am all around.
I am confident that I am on track to eliminate debt and generate wealth. I tracked what I earned and spent, and I asked for and heeded advice. I stopped giving away my labour and talent for free. I learned to say “no” to work I didn’t want, and I noticed that every time I did say “no”, another opportunity opened up. Then some magic happened too, and I’m beginning 2011 with a bank account balance that fills me with relief rather than stress.
I am open to possibilities, and I am grounded in my own focus. I am learning to say a true yes and a true no: a true yes to possibilities that resonate with my own focus, and a true no to possibilities that do not. I continue to learn this lesson.
I am successful and I am making valuable change in people’s lives. You don’t have to take my word for it–you can read what my profiled clients have to say.
I am open to friendships and I nourish my friendships. I am learning to practice generosity. I have nourished some friendships this year while neglecting others. I have been outlandishly generous one moment, and stingy and hoarding the next. But throughout the year, this intention kept bringing me back to how I want to be, and encouraging me to keep trying.
I show my family, through my actions and my words, that I love them. I now live just three blocks away from my sister and her daughter. My sister and I ran together three mornings a week during the summer, and my niece spent part of both her summer and winter vacations hanging out with me full-time. I skype my parents a few times a week, and send my mom postcards. And I’m now engaged in the creative act of a whole new family (see “I can love and be loved” below).
I recognize my habits and patterns and actively experiment with new ways of being. Some of the things I actively experimented with: letting go of the outcome, abandoning my schedule, not writing things on lists, answering fewer emails, relinquishing the need to be right, decisions that came from courage rather than fear.
I stand, speak, and act with confidence. After a year of paying attention to confidence, I’ve made some progress: when asked about my work, I now answer confidently and proudly that I am a life coach and a therapist, and I believe whole-heartedly in what I do. I step forward more readily with offers of my work, and I am quicker to celebrate my successes with others rather than hiding my light under a bushel.
I make time to create. I created two homes I love, rewrote a website, finished writing a book, and each month made visioning dreamboards.
I value peace and beauty. I wrote this intention as a reminder to myself that setting up surroundings that I love, spending time looking at leaves on the trees, and sitting in silence are all important and nourishing for me. A wellspring from which everything else is drawn.
I can love and be loved. This intention was scary to write. It was scary to think. It was especially scary to post on a blog. Deep down, are we not all a little bit afraid of being unlovable? And perhaps insecure about our ability to give love? In writing it, I had no inkling that come September I would marry the love of my life. I could not have foreseen that. But I could put out the intention to love and be loved, and, magically, it happened.
2011: What Intentions Will You Make?
Whether you wish to reflect, to set goals, to harness intentions, or just to enjoy excellent company, you are invited to Two Hours of Perspective on January 22, an event I host specifically to create the time and space for people to look back on the year that is past, and gather focus and groundedness for the year to come.
What results might you be celebrating in January 2012?
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