The next program begins in June. Sign up by May 30th in order to confirm your spot.

Why sign up? Check out this feedback from one of our past participants:

“Holy crap! This month has been awesome. The exercises and regular check-ins kept me on track in moving to where I wanted to be at the end of the month. I don’t think I would have put nearly as much time and thought into this without your amazing guidance. I looked at my comments on the short form a few days ago and noticed how much more specific I have gotten in my thoughts (in just a couple of weeks). This is exactly what I wanted!!!”

The Month of You program is all about what’s important to YOU this month. You get to decide what you want to get out of it. You decide what success looks like to you. You choose what goals you’re working on and what this month is all about for you.

Here’s what you get:

• an hour-long coaching call to kick off the month and get clear on what’s important to you and what a plan for success looks like
• an exclusive focus on what it means to you to succeed this month
• structure and accountability to keep you on track all month long (but without the time requirements of a weekly phone call)
• a custom-designed daily check-in form to keep your goals front and centre
• 2 emails a week from your coach to congratulate you on your successes, cheer you on when the going gets tough, and notice what you’re learning and how you’re growing.

Who’s it for?

The design, time commitment, and accountability structure of this program make it ideal for:

• entrepreneurs who are used to working on their own, but still want a thought partner for the big picture and someone who will help them celebrate successes and check in on their progress
• employees who are dedicated to what they do but need more support and accountability to perform at their best
• people ready to commit an entire month to a particular goal (e.g. a job search, a fitness goal, a personal well-being initiative)
• someone who wants to spend the month exploring a topic that’s important to her/him, e.g. “What does happiness mean to me?” or “How can I bring more creativity into my life?”

How It Works

• During the first week of the month, we set up an hour-long coaching call to discuss what you’re wanting from this month. We’ll explore your topic in depth, including what success looks like to you, what roadblocks you might encounter, what your plan for the month looks like, and where you will most need support.
• From this phone call, I design for you a daily and a weekly check-in form (online) where you can monitor how you’re doing, what adjustments are needed, and note any successes or challenges. You’ll submit the check-in forms to me, leading to…
• Twice a week you’ll receive a short email from me in response to your daily check-ins. I’ll offer words of encouragement, suggest tweaks to your plan as needed, and celebrate your progress with you!
• Finally, we end the month with a look back at what you’ve achieved and what you’ve learned, and decide whether you would like to continue for another month (with the same topic or moving onto a new goal).

What participants have said so far:

“I’ve loved this program so far and I can see a clear progression toward where I wanted to be at the end of the month.”

“I feel like I have coaching in my life every single day with this program. I’m more regularly thinking about self-improvement and long term solutions to behaviours that I’ve been wanting to change for months or longer.”

“This has been great and very fruitful. Love working with you.”

When asked to describe the program in one or two words, participants have answered with:

Motivating        Amazing        Inspiring

Enlightening               Fun                Introspective

Productive            Energizing             Exploratory

Are You Ready for a Month of You?

You can join the Month of You for just $145 (plus applicable taxes) for the whole four weeks.

The next program runs from June 4th-30th.

To sign up, email me at readyforchangecoaching {at} gmail {dot} com, or click right here for the contact form. 

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More details in this post…

Last month I launched the pilot program Rock Your Month. The five pilot spots were filled within 24 hours, and here’s some of what I’m hearing back as the month progresses:

“I love this program!”

“I look forward to getting the check-in emails!”

“I’ve loved this program so far and I can see a clear progression toward where I wanted to be at the end of the month.”

“This has been great and very fruitful. Love working with you.”

In May, I’m renaming the program The Month of You. Because this program is all about what’s important to YOU this month. And because I received a lot of response from people on my email list when I wrote about The Month of Me.

Are you thinking of signing up? You’ve got until the end of the week to let me know.

Here’s what you’ll be getting:

• an hour-long coaching call to kick off the month and get clear on what’s important to you and what a plan for success looks like
• an exclusive focus on what it means to you to succeed this month
• structure and accountability to keep you on track all month long (but without the time requirements of a weekly phone call)
• a custom-designed daily check-in form to keep your goals front and centre
• 3 short emails a week from your coach to congratulate you on your successes, cheer you on when the going gets tough, and notice what you’re learning and how you’re growing.

Who’s it for?

The design, time commitment, and accountability structure of this program make it ideal for:

• entrepreneurs who are used to working on their own, but still want a thought partner for the big picture and someone who will help them celebrate successes and check in on their progress
• people ready to commit an entire month to a particular goal (e.g. a job search, a fitness goal, a personal well-being initiative)
• employees who are dedicated to what they do but need more support and accountability to perform at their best

How It Works

• During the first week of the month, we set up an hour-long coaching call to discuss what you’re wanting from this month. We’ll explore your topic in depth, including what success looks like to you, what roadblocks you might encounter, what your plan for the month looks like, and where you will most need support.
• From this phone call, I design for you a daily check-in form (online) where you can monitor how you’re doing, where adjustments are needed, and note any successes or challenges. You’ll submit the daily check-in form to me, leading to…
• Three times a week you’ll receive a short email from me in response to your daily check-ins. I’ll offer words of encouragement, suggest tweaks to your plan as needed, and celebrate your progress with you!
• Finally, we end the month with a look back at what you’ve achieved and what you’ve learned, and decide whether you would like to continue for another month (with the same topic or moving onto a new goal).

Are You Ready for a Month of You?

May will be the last month when you can sign up for this program at the pilot program price — just $100 (plus applicable taxes) for the whole four weeks.

Remember, May starts next week — so get in touch right away to reserve your spot.

You can email me at readyforchangecoaching {at} gmail {dot} com, or click right here for the contact form. 

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If you’re reading this post, consider yourself invited to get in on the pilot at a special rate — you’ll just need to sign up in time for a first-week-of-April start.

The program: Rock Your Month (pilot)

Coaching, one month at a time, with:

• the structure and accountability to keep you on track all month long (but without the time requirements of a weekly phone call)
• an exclusive focus on what it means to you to succeed this month.
• an hour-long coaching call to kick off the month and get clear on what’s important to you and what a plan for success looks like.
• a custom-designed daily check-in form to keep your goals front and centre.
• 3 short emails a week from your coach to congratulate you on your successes, cheer you on when the going gets tough, and notice what you’re learning and how you’re growing.

Who Wants to Rock Your Month?

The design, time commitment, and accountability structure of this program make it ideal for:

• entrepreneurs who are used to working on their own, but still want a thought partner for the big picture and someone who will help them celebrate successes and check in on their progress
• people ready to commit an entire month to a particular goal (e.g. a job search, a fitness goal, a personal well-being initiative)
• employees who are dedicated to what they do but need more support and accountability to perform at their best

How It Works

1. During the first week of the month, we set up an hour-long coaching call to discuss what you’re wanting from this month. We’ll explore your topic in depth, including what success looks like to you, what roadblocks you might encounter, what your plan for the month looks like, and where you will most need support.
2. From this phone call, I design for you a daily check-in form (online) where you can monitor how you’re doing, where adjustments are needed, and note any successes or challenges. You’ll submit the daily check-in form to me, leading to…
3. Three times a week you’ll receive a short email from me in response to your daily check-ins. I’ll offer words of encouragement, suggest tweaks to your plan as needed, and celebrate your progress with you!
4. Finally, we end the month with a look back at what you’ve achieved and what you’ve learned, and decide whether you would like to continue for another month (with the same topic or moving onto a new goal).

Pilot Pricing

For April only, I’ll be running a pilot version of this program for just $100 (plus applicable taxes) to five lucky people who want to help me test it out.

(This really is a seriously good price: usually a one hour coaching session is $120, and in this package not only are you getting one hour of coaching, you’re also getting an accountability form and email support all month long!)

Ready to Sign Up?

If the Rock Your Month pilot program sounds like it’s for you, please get in touch! You can email me at readyforchangecoaching {at} gmail {dot} com, or click right here for the contact form. 

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I wonder what sort of weekly or monthly daylong ritual would make a significant difference for you?

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I instituted two types of days at the beginning of 2010, and almost four months into the year (!), I feel convinced of their value.

First, I decided that I would designate a Reflection Day each month.

I chose the 18th, because it’s the day of my birthday. On the 18th of every month, I’ve set aside two to three hours to go sit somewhere peaceful with a notebook and a pen, and take stock of what I like to call The State of the Union.

During Reflection Day, I look over my intentions for 2010, decide if I want to update or change any of my intentions, and think about how they’ve become real in my life. I do a quick survey of all of the areas of my life using the Wheel of Life coaching tool. I think about the projects I’ve taken on, and my balance of work / rest / recreation / joy. I look for themes that are showing up, and for the successes I want to celebrate. And I zone in on a few things that I want to be aware of or change in the month to come.

The impact:

Knowing that I will pause on Reflection Day to think these things through has cleared some of my headspace during the month. I take on projects that feel right, I make decisions that seem like the right ones, and I don’t worry about it too much, because I know that once a month I have a built-in check for myself to determine how I’m doing. I feel reassured that things won’t fall off my plate – because once a month I check in on all areas of my life. I don’t have as many nagging doubts or worries, because I have space to regularly reflect. And my sense of purpose and self is becoming stronger, as every thirty days I recommit to who I am, what’s important to me, and how it is coming alive in my life.

Second, I instituted Computer Free Days.

One day a week, usually Sunday, I leave my computer turned off and avoid the internet. This change has been more subtle, and just as powerful. I’ve found a new rhythm on Sundays – cooking, cleaning, reading, and just being. Sundays feel like a day of soul nourishment. I’m almost loathe to turn my computer back on on Mondays – and this from someone who willingly spends most of her time in front of her laptop. Throughout the rest of the week, I feel less tied to the online world, and less addicted to the quick fix of email, twitter, or facebook. I’m down to checking each of them only one or two times a day (yes, even email!), which has freed up vast chunks of time to work on projects.

The impact:

I find myself more present to what I am working on at any given time. I have fewer adrenaline surges because I no longer see each and every email arrive in my inbox. I’m stunned at the time I am finding to spend multiple hours on particular projects once I have my browser closed. And I start every week with a clean house, a stocked fridge, and a sense of peace.

If you’d like to read more, I recommend:

A Provisional Guide for Observing a Weekly Day of Rest (from Sabbath Manifesto)

The Lost Practice of Resting One Day Each Week (from Zen Habits)

LeechBlock (LeechBlock is an extension you can add to Firefox. You can use it to block certain domains for your chosen times of day(s)). 

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For January only, I will be offering special Reflection and Visioning sessions for folks who would like an hour of coaching dedicated solely to reflecting on their 2011 and dreaming and envisioning their 2012.

After spending a number of years working with people to get clear on where they are, where they’ve been, and where they’re headed, I’ve grown to value the rituals of reflecting and visioning.

And I know that for many people, it’s easier to reflect and vision when you’re in conversation and have a thought partner to ask you questions, to actively listen, to echo back to you your themes, patterns, and enthusiasm.

If you would like to book your very own Reflection and Visioning session, please send me a note (laurajoanne |at| gmail |dot| com). Check below for the specific details.

And if you’re unable to book your own session but would still be interested in a Reflection and Visioning tool, I’d be happy to share with you a worksheet I’ve prepared that prompts you to reflect on 2011, take stock of where you are now, and look ahead to 2012. Just drop me a line (laurajoanne |at| gmail |dot| com) to get your copy.

Wishing you rich reflection and dreaming!

Warmly,

Laura

Reflection and Visioning Sessions: The Details

• Dates: sessions will be available during January 2012 only
• Length of session: 60 minutes, conducted by phone or Skype, or in-person (Ottawa area only)
• Cost: $120 plus HST
• Pre-work: you’ll receive a menu of questions to answer before our session, so that we are both clear on understanding what you would like to get out of the session.
• Ready to book your session? Let’s talk! (Email me: laurajoanne |at| gmail |dot| com).

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It was a lovely opportunity to meet Ottawans one-on-one and to talk about coaching. I had a quick little brainstorm with Cynthia, and she threw her creative talents into a cross-country collaboration with me to produce the Ready for Change coaching booth.

The Ready for Change Wishing Tree

I wanted each person I spoke with to get a taste of what working with a life coach might get them thinking about, so – with Cynthia’s help, and Yoko Ono’s – I came up with the idea you see in the picture.

As people got curious about what was going on at my table, I handed them a marker and a paper heart and asked them to write down one thing they were ready to leave behind in 2011. I was moved by people’s honesty, and their readiness to name what they wanted to leave behind: “worry” came up a number of times; a few people wrote “self-doubt”; someone listed “being stuck and resentful.” I asked them to leave their heart at the bottom of the wishing tree.

Next,  I handed them a paper leaf and asked them to write down something they wished for 2012. Smiles broke out on people’s faces as they completed this part: they wrote wishes such as “more art!”, “patience”, “health”, “finishing my thesis.”

Once they’d written their wish, I invited them to tie their wish leaf onto the wishing tree.

By the end of the day, all of these coach-y questions (“What do you wish to leave behind? What do you wish for the future?”) had yielded a beautiful, blooming tree of hope.

What are you ready to leave behind as 2011 comes to a close?

What are you wishing for 2012? 

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The exercise comes from the fantastic book How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, by David Richo. I’ve provided the exercise below not quite word-for-word, but pretty close. I highly recommend his book — from start to finish, and with every reread, I’m learning from it.

Sketch a square that represents a room, as if you are looking down at the room from above. On each side of the room, there is a window — so one window faces each of the four cardinal directions.

Imagine yourself standing in the centre of the room, and turning one by one to face each different direction.

As you turn to face the east, reflect on what is arising in your life. What are three things that are arising? Make a note of them in the east.

As you turn to face the west, write down three things that are now ending.

As you turn to face the north, write three things in your life that stabilize and guide you, as does the North Star.

As you turn to face the south, write three things in your life that evoke your spontaneity and creativity.

Picture yourself in the centre of the room, mindfully turning to each direction: looking to the east with a willingness to take hold, to face the west with a willingness to let go, to face north by staying with your spiritual/grounding practice, and to face south with enthusiasm and creativity in the invention of your life.

You may want to notice who (or what situations/contexts) helps you open those windows. Who/what shuts them?

You may want to reflect on what your stance is as you face each of these directions — how do you face each of these areas? What’s your default approach to each?

Wishing you peace with all of your endings and beginnings.

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There are so many wonderful versions of this simple exercise to develop self-awareness.

At its most basic, all you have to do is take a moment to check in with yourself in each of four areas:

• Physical
• Mental
• Emotional
• Spiritual

At the moment I’m writing this, my check-in looks like this:

Physical: It’s early in the morning and I haven’t been outside or active yet today, but my energy feels pretty good and I’m looking forward to a quick walk. I’ve been noticing tension in my arms and wrists lately; I make a mental note to keep an eye on that.

Mental: I’m noticing that I’m sighing a lot, probably because I’m feeling some stress about our upcoming move to a new home. My mind feels calm right now.

Emotional: I feel a bit of tension anticipating a conversation I’ll be having today. I feel a lot of warmth and love when I glance over at the man I love. I’m relieved that even though it’s dark and rainy and autumn, I don’t – today, at least – feel any onset of seasonal affective disorder.

Spiritual: I’m full of gratitude for my practice of spending at least half an hour each morning engaging in some sort of spiritual activity — often reading, sometimes meditation. Even as I recognize some mental anxiety, spiritually I feel grounded and centered.

It’s as easy as that! Took me all of two minutes.

Variations on the Four Point Check-In:

• A few years ago I participated in a First Nations workshop where we created our own medicine wheel. As I wound the buckskin in each quadrant, I reflected on the areas each quadrant represented. Thanks to Sue Freeman for leading this exercise.
• Ask a loved one to let you know what they’re observing in you in each of the four areas.
• Create a space for each of the four areas on the floor. Ask a partner to step, one at a time, into each of them, and spend a minute noticing what arises in him/her as he/she steps into the representation of this aspect of you.
• Talk to Cynthia Gunsinger about how art journalling can help you explore the four points.
• Take four photographs, each one representing one of the four aspects of you.
• Sketch an image that represents to you your current state in each of these areas.
• Draw a card from a symbolic deck (I like the OSHO Zen cards) for each area. Let the symbols illuminate the area for you.

Do you have your own variation on this exercise? I’d love to have you share it.

Wishing you physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

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What did you used to enjoy doing that you no longer do?

It’s a fitting question to pop up here in the series-esque self-awareness posts I’ve got going (self-awareness surveys, the “should” exercise).

Lesley told me about using the question as part of a workshop to help people envision what fulfillment would look like for them.

“It sounds like a sad question,” was my initial response. Indeed, she confirmed, many of the answers that came up were sad, even heartbreaking.

Yet through the answers to this question, people find clues toward what’s missing in their life right now, and what might bring in more verve, more joy, and more fulfillment.

What did you used to enjoy doing that you no longer do?

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Laura McGrath is an Ottawa-based life coach and therapist who helps smart people live from their hearts. Lesley Wallace is an Ottawa-based coach whose clients first come to her after they’ve suddenly found themselves looking around at their lives and wondering “what the hell happened”. Both Laura and Lesley are currently accepting new clients and would love to hear from you.

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Here’s the first issue of Morsels of Change. If you like what you read, perhaps you’ll join me by signing up here (click the “Morsels of Change” checkbox).

Morsels of Change #1

Underlying Approaches to Conflict, Mashed Up with the Enneagram

Morsels of Change question to ponder:

What’s your default position when faced with a problem? How does it clash with the default positions of those with whom you come into conflict?

This week I’m combining conflict, which I’m really bad at, with the Enneagram, which I love.

The Wisdom of the Enneagram book (Riso and Hudson) has this neat little table that outlines how the different Enneagram types are likely to react to a problem.

Here are the 9 different reactions (NOT in order of type), according to the book:

-”What problem? I don’t think there is a problem.”
-”You have a problem. I’m here to help you.”
-”There may be a problem, but I’m fine.”
-”There’s an efficient solution to this — we just need to get to work.”
-”I’m sure we can solve this like sensible, mature adults.”
-”There are a number of hidden issues here: let me think about this.”
-”I feel really pressured, and I’ve got to let off some steam!”
-”I feel really hurt, and I need to express myself.”
-”I’m angry about this and you’re going to hear about it!”

Which reaction sounds most like you?

Now, notice how these reactions will play out in relationships. For example, when my niece and I are facing a problem together (or engaging in conflict), our reactions go head-to-head.

Mine:
“There are a number of hidden issues here: let me think about this.”

Hers:
“I’m angry about this and you’re going to hear about it!”

If we both stay true to type, neither of us gets what we need. I don’t get to spend time thinking about all the different aspects of the problem if she’s going on about how angry she is. If I do get to go spend time thinking about the problem, she doesn’t have my attention to listen to her talk about how angry she is.

For the two of us to engage in conflict together, or face a problem together, we’ve both got to be accommodating to the other’s needs. (Or, more accurately, I need to accommodate her needs, as I’m the adult, but you get the idea.)

Morsels of Change question to ponder:

What’s your default position when faced with a problem? How does it clash with the default positions of those with whom you come into conflict?

If you ever want to reach out for a conversation about something you’ve read in this newsletter, or something in your life that you are wanting to explore more deeply in conversation, please be in touch. We are all on a journey of learning and discovery together.

Warmly,
Laura

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