Tasty Morsels from the Party of Possibility

Now fully recovered from the Party of Possibility‘s wine, colourful sharpies, balloons, cookies, breathtaking ideas, and laughter, here are some of the lessons I learned when I gathered together the people who know me best and asked them to help me dream about my potential impact in the world.

Be greedy.

It’s amazing how often I limit what I wish for. As if I’m scared to ask for what I really want, or believe that it would be selfish to ask for it. But what I’ve learned is that if I’m asked, “What would I want if I was really, really greedy?”, three things happen: 1 – I become better attuned to what I truly desire, and how to express it; 2 – I discover that what I truly want isn’t selfish or thoughtless, but often involves the wellbeing and happiness of others; 3 – that when I express what I really, really want, it has a habit of happening.

Ask to have your breath taken away.

After two hours of wine and discussion, I asked everyone to write down something provocative and something breathtaking.

Much like asking myself what I would want if I was greedy, asking other people to suggest the provocative and breathtaking provided some of the best ideas, questions, and advice for me to ponder. The provocative and breathtaking, surprisingly, seems within reach when I look it straight in the eye. And sometimes, I think, people need permission to be provocative and breathtaking before they’ll say something that they’ve been thinking all along but never had the opportunity to bring into the conversation.

During my Party of Possibility, I received provocative and breathtaking suggestions ranging from “Do it first; make a plan later”, to “You’re worth five times as much as you think you are”, to “Go corporate and get hitched”, to “Turn off, embrace life, put Laura first.”

Capture the story.

We closed the evening with everyone sharing the newspaper headline they dream of reading about me sometime in the future. Each person wrote just a few words that captured the bigness and possibility of the ideas. It was a simple way to cut through to the essence.

I’ll close with some of the headlines of where you might find me in the future:

2014: Activist Acquitted in Trial of the Century

2015: New Approach to Life Coaching Hits North America

2015: McGrath named to Top 40 Under 40

2020: McGrath appointed Governor General’s personal advisor

2021: Natalie Portman Wins Oscar in Provocative Role Playing Laura McGrath in the Inspiring True Story No Dream Too Big

2043: An award is named in Laura’s honour, recognizing her body of work

And finally, one of my favourite headlines, and the one closest to home:

August 2009: World’s Happiest Woman

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Laura McGrath, CPCC, is a Toronto-based co-active life coach who helps smart people to live from their hearts. Let's talk! You can subscribe to Ready for Change news to receive thoughtful notes on personal growth, and you can contact Laura to find out if coaching is right for you.


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